Privacy

How important is it to keep a sacred space where you can relax and not worry about other people's opinions, or thoughts, or their eyes on your innermost thoughts? Is it so important that even your significant other has no allowance?

It's a double-edged sword. On one hand it's vital to venting and creativity. Privacy creates the comfort of knowing you can say and write what you want with no judgments passed, no possibility of a future argument where a quote might be brought up, or emotions tinkered with. You can let everything hang out: the good, bad and proverbial ugly without consequence.
On the other hand, to your significant other, it can mean you're keeping a part of yourself closed to him.

I feel I've learned my lesson with blogs. I had a traumatizing experience with it, that involved sharing blog passwords with an ex-boyfriend, then subsequently reading private posts that divulged innermost thoughts and emotions in the months after the break-up. I knew it wasn't healthy, but it became an obsession to me. So much, that he had to change his password... it was a lengthy ordeal, and we both underwent the sad separation that changing a password meant. It was like a breakup all its own. I took a break from blogs for a long time after that. I've even forgotten the password to that blog, which I had also changed after he changed his. It took me a lot to start this, and I started with an agreement to myself that it would be a safe haven for me. One that not even the closest person to me could see... the only person I don't mind seeing this is my sister.

But it's two-sided for me too. On one hand, I want Rob to learn everything about me. I want him to figure certain things out without my having to study what I need to point out about myself in order for him to understand me better. But on the other, I believe that timing is everything, and that things eventually float to the surface when it comes to relationships.

I almost let him see this blog. I divulged the address.
But we spoke about it...and I decided I didn't want him to read it. If he saw it, it would mean an end to this sacred haven. And while he's worth it, I was scared to regret it one day. I decided it would be better for him not to read it. And I trust that he won't, even if he has the address on his GChat.
I trust him.